In the last number of years, everything millennial has flooded the media and at first, I would have believed that the ‘quarter life crisis’ was another thing created by my generation to justify the crappy feeling of the 20s. Luckily there has been extensive studies been done on the topic, and now that I feel I have also hit that horrible moment in my life I wonder…
So is it true? Why does it seem to be affecting our generation more? If I am in ‘crisis’ mode, how do I power through?
In a British Psychological Society study, scientists have suggested that there are serval stages to the crisis.
Phase 1 – A feeling of being trapped by your life choices. Feeling as though you are living your life on autopilot.
Phase 2 – A rising sense of “I’ve got to get out” and the feeling that you can change your life.
Phase 3 – Quitting the job or relationship or whatever else is making you feel trapped and embarking on a “time out” period where you try out new experiences to find out who you want to be.
Phase 4 – Rebuilding your life.
Phase 5 – Developing new commitments more attuned to your interests and aspirations.
So it seems its true to some scientists, but why do us millennials keep getting hit hard with it?
Simply it seems its because we are idealists and we are in a world where its harder to reach our own and others expectations. Our world, with its shite economy, unpaid internships and unemployment galore, crazy media focused politicians and our attachment to putting everything on the web.
Statistically, We have become the most educated generation to hit the workforce, and currently the most unemployed generation. Which sucks cause we are also the generation most in debt, but yet we are still the idealist, that we can change the world and that we can have that CEO job if we want it. Which all causes the Quarter-life crisis, the anxiety over our debt, the stress of not being management level by 26 and the depression about not being with that long-term partner yet. Plus we can instantly see how well all our friends are being and how amazing their lives are through social media. Let’s be honest, it would make anyone go into crisis mode.
So how do we deal with it? By powering through.
Find a side gig. Luckily for all of us we can use scouts as that side gig but change it up a bit, maybe apply to be on a national team ( hint hint) or challenge yourself by completing your wood beads or an adventure skills, if you feel unfulfilled in the job paying your bills right now, get fulfilment somewhere else.
Chat to your mates about it. I know this seems obvious but also unnerving but it does work, talking about your feelings you normally find out other people are going through this crisis too, and not just all the millennials writing articles about it like me.
Remind your self its a phase and its a part of ‘adulting’. We have a whole category of this blog based on the things that Rovers feel isn’t covered in school or by our parents in getting ready to be an adult so just remember we are all faking it as well until we watch a good video online or a blog about how to do ‘that’ thing.
So in conclusion, life is tough but we will be grand, we have it hard as a generation but we also have access to many more resources to fix our problems. If you still feel worried, check out the below infographic on successful people and when they became success 😉